Have a little faith

My middle child who never wanted to go to church spent the past week talking me into going to church. With summer and all the camping, we sort of strayed away from attending. It was refreshing for me for once to not be the one to try to talk to my guys into attending. It was a reminder to me that maybe, just maybe, all that pushing I had done getting them to church had finally amounted to something. And also, maybe it's me now that needs some spirit revamping. I had to say that my faith and attitude has turned into "poo" lately. I am really glad that I went today and like usual it felt like the message was personally made for me.

The message at church this week was about how bad things happen and not always for a reason. Plain and simple, we all make bad decisions and sometimes we are called on it. Not that bad things don't happen to good people, I think about the "Foley" family who lost their brother to ISIS recently. It was amazing to watch his siblings have a positive attitude in such a tragedy when I watched their interview with Katie Couric. They brought up how maybe, something will come out good from the tragedy like the USA handling kidnap victims better. Their spirit amazed me!

Sometimes I feel like I walk around with a big, bad ball of bad things above me like a big ball filled with confetti, ready to drop on me any second. I suppose it is good to prepare yourselves and also use warnings to deter yourself from making bad decisions. But the truth is, we all are going to have bad things happen to us. So, I feel that I need to fully enjoy the good ones.

I have so much yet to do....so many wonderful things. I want to climb the mountains, swim in the sea, hold my grandchildren, make a difference! Reality is,as long as I breathe there will be conflicts, thinks that make me stray, but I am glad that I am back on track for now. Thanks G Man for bringing me back to where I needed to be!

Friday

So, today my son, the wonderful salesman that he is, sent me a sweet text message. Although he could be buttering me up for his Friday night plans, it was wonderful to see! The sweet things in life are free. So, pass on the love today.

 

 

 

Our adoption worker came up and did her last walk through our house. She said it should be ready by end of September. I also signed us up for our first match party in a big city! Should be interesting.

 

 

And on a positive note I get to sleep in tomorrow!

 

Children are our biggest resource and it saddens me to hear about all the programs, schools, and teacher layoff's that are going on in my state. It also saddens me to hear about test scores, although partly important, are becoming the biggest indicator of  quality in schools. When I was a child (too many years ago), I remember taking naps and learning how to play with others in a relaxed setting in kindergarten. We even had time for show and tell. But, the truth is I feel that I had an excellent education! And despite the relaxed atmosphere, I was able to learn my facts and then go on to higher concepts!

 Too often I hear from parents who have children in primary grades that they are bothered by the amounts of homework that their children bring home. They are overwhelmed! Today while at physical therapy with my son it was nice to hear the parent's side of view about homework. The reality is many things have changed since I was in kindergarten...socioeconomics, the economy, technology, and the dynamics of the traditional family! So, schools will have to change along with it but I do think there are some valuable lessons we can learn from the past.


School is not just about test scores! Students need to learn about making good choices, being a good citizen, working hard, treating others with respect, and so on. Not everyone is going to go to college or needs a perfect test score. Some students will go on to college and pursue a higher level education of  while others will work with their hands. We are all unique and that is why I feel the cookie cutter plans for education are in no way going to produce the perfect batch.

With my youngest son, J Man, who has struggled most of his life with medical, physical, and learning disabilities, I have seen how individualizing education can work. Each child is a unique gift! Everything for my son has not been easy but with early on programs, speech, physical and occupational therapy he has made many gains. He can learn but differently. J Man has had some wonderful people in his life. Yes, there have been stand out's, but not every person can reach the same child.

Cutting the arts and elective type courses while implementing more requirements is not the perfect recipe. The reality is some students only attend school because of the arts!I also know that Algebra II can be a complete waste of time for some special needs students who would benefit from learning job skills. Yet, inclusion can work and has proven in some ways, that students with disabilities can be challenged and succeed. But, again, the word "individualized comes to mind".

On a very personal note, somebody asked me yesterday if I would talk to a person considering abortion because she found out her child has Dandy Walker Syndrome and hydrocephalus (what J Man has) because she is uncertain of what to do. When I was pregnant with J Man, the doctor was concerned because the baby wasn't gaining weight but we didn't know that he had something wrong with him.I remember when J Man was two that we finally got a diagnosis. I remember searching the Internet and hearing all the scary things. But this I do know, J Man has been the biggest blessing to me and all around him! But, can I promise this lady that she will have the same experience. I can't because there are varying degrees of Dandy Walker and Hydrocephalus. Can I promise her that she won't see her child have endless shunt surgeries and infections etc.? No, I can't.

But, the one thing I can say is that there are wonderful people every day who dedicate their lives to serving others. J Man has had some exceptional people and programs get him where he is today! With the way education is going, we are losing some of these exceptional people that make a HUGE difference. All I can say is people please start speaking up for our kids and schools. We have a lot to lose.

On a positive note, I am attaching a picture of J Man when he was at his worst physically and a video of where he is now. It might not seem like a big deal but for my young J Man who at one time could barely speak a sound or crawl or walk, it is a miracle. My special miracle! I would do it all over again!

DJ Teach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

J Man in tougher times!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Seriously, that cannot be pink in our house, is it true?

 

 

 

Well, I decided to purchase this comforter for $5.00 for the first few weeks that my daughter comes. Afterwards, I thought it would be a great idea for us to let her pick out items for her room. The yellow blanket was given to me by my mother, the duck was by our exchange son Hyeok, the desk was in my family as children, and for some reason this glass dolphin caught my eye. Maybe, it's because dolphins look so free! After talking to the art teacher where I teach, she said that she would ask some students for me to paint some fun shelving! Just love to see PINK!

Sometimes in life it is really easy to feel down like you are entrenched in a dark spot. Feeling that all week! But, in reality aren't I lucky enough to have a home, one well-behaved lab, one psychotic lab puppy lol, three healthy boys, and a wonderful man who loves me unconditionally! Even more so, my parents and siblings are all here! Sometimes we need to remind ourselves what we do have, but it is not always easy!!!

All week I have been listening to some positive songs and quotes to get my optimism grooving! And I must, because life is for living! Don't want to waste time on the negative! If you are feeling the same way, I am praying for ya!

Although I am working on the positive, there is always work to do! As a special education teacher, my reality is that job security in my chosen career is about as secure as a person walking across a thin layer of ice. Risky! So, this week I have been thinking about the what if's! What if I lose my job, what if I can't find any teaching job if I do lose my job next year, and what if I have to choose another career? I am thinking about other options just in case.

I got called for my first adoption placement...the person was older and had some pretty serious meds and issues. I am glad I got a call but knew this was not the right child for us. Pray that this child finds a home!

So, all you trying to get positive people like me just out this quote and song that I "used" a lot this week to bring up the sun and to remind me to be nice even when I don't feel it.

Look Like Love